When a Christian woman claims she can’t wear leggings because it turns men on and dishonors her husband, I need to speak up for the other women on the planet who use the brains God gave us.
I won’t justify the article with a link to it. It is written by a woman referring to herself as a Christian who wrote a blog post about her choice to not wear leggings thanks to her naughty husband after he admitted he looks at other women who wear leggings. Somehow they got noticed and the couple were asked to appear on a major USA morning T.V. show.
My friends over the pond must be spitting out their drinks right now.
The woman, whom I’ll call V, says she in no way is telling other women what to wear, and for that, I’m gracious enough to thank her. She’s welcome to live her entire life in fear of people looking at her butt when she wears leggings. She’s making this choice after realizing that when she wore “tight fitting leggings or yoga pants”, it “creates a stronger attraction for a man to look at a woman’s body and may cause them to think lustful thoughts.”
Stop right there.
For as far back as the days of Adam and Eve, and before that during the days of Atlantis, and oh heck, the days when Jesus walked the Earth, men with enough testosterone in their bodies looked at women’s bodies and sometimes had naughty thoughts. In fact, when women wore clothing that hid their entire bodies during Victorian times men went absolutely beserk at the hint of an ankle. In Jesus’s time, women wore flowing, body concealing robes and that never stopped them from attracting husbands or selling sex.
It suddenly occurred to V that what she wore was downright dangerous.
Was it possible my wearing leggings could cause a man, other than my husband, to think lustfully about my body? I asked my husband his thoughts on the matter when he got home. I appreciated his honesty when he told me, “yeah, when I walk into a place and there are women wearing yoga pants everywhere, it’s hard to not look. I try not to, but it’s not easy.”
So, thank you very much Husband of V. It’s YOUR fault your wife can’t wear comfortable clothes and to get links and attention to her blog, she’s going to tell the entire world you are a horny bastard.
According to V, men are only allowed to look “that way” at their wife. I can just imagine this same conversation with Moses and his wife after she could not bear him a child. Not to mention all the women married to men with multiple wives. Who, by the way, in some religious cultures and communes, never wear tight fitting clothes and have more babies than V has.
It’s not the clothes.
We wear what we wear for all kinds of reasons. God had the good sense to give us the ability to choose good sense. Some choices we make take courage. Other choices teach us lessons, good and bad. When a personal choice is based on fear, it is no longer a loving choice. It is a control device. When a personal choice is made that hurts someone else, it is a control device.
Most balanced relationships I know have a “look but don’t touch” policy and agreement with their partner. It’s healthy. It indicates knowledge of human behavior and teaches us to trust. Clearly, V doesn’t trust her husband and she has chosen to teach her daughter that Daddy is bad because he can’t control himself around women who wear leggings and yoga pants. V and her daughter have to be careful with what they wear or else Daddy or other men may think bad thoughts.
Not only is Daddy a terrible person for looking at a woman’s body other than mommy’s, he belongs to the gender that can’t control their eyes, thoughts or actions. So, once again, we have that bias against women that creates a culture where rape is the fault of the woman because she wore clothing that showed off her figure.
It’s not the clothes.
Ask women who walk the streets of any city listening to cat calls and vulgar language shouted out to them. It’s disgusting but it would happen if she were wearing a bag on her head. The attention has nothing to do with her and more to do with how men show off, compete and attempt to be the cool dude.
If it is difficult for my husband who loves, honors, and respects me to keep his eyes focused ahead, then how much more difficult could it be for a man that may not have the same self-control?
So, what does this mean, exactly?
Is she saying that Husband of V should wear a collar with a leash and heel to her left side when with her and wear horse blinders when he goes anywhere without her?
For V, the issue is wearing tight fitting leggings and yoga pants. I wear them often. My daughter, when she starts teaching her yoga classes, will wear them to work. When I ride horses, leggings are just as comfortable to wear, if not more so, that riding breeches, which by the way, can be tight fitting. I wear them to the stable and then to lunch at the local cheap joint to grab lunch.
Not only am I wearing something lustful, but I smell like horse poop.