Oui. Reading Lorelle VanFossen’s, What Should Bloggers Apologize For and How?, made me stop to wonder if I’ve ever written anything offensive to anyone on this blog. She asked if we bloggers have ever regretted anything we’ve written.
I think there’s a certain freedom of expression that comes with blog ownership and if bloggers write something regrettable, the horror of the experience can be enough to shut them up forever or they’ll ride the wave of backlash without batting an eyelash. I may not agree with that dumb thing they wrote, but I try to respect their right to screw up royally and I move on. Sometimes for good.
Some blog writers get their jollies by hurting people on purpose. I doubt that’s anything they regret and Lorelle’s post is scrambled eggs to them. While I personally don’t get a rise out of sites that degrade and humiliate other people, some blogs are designed to raise hell with no apologies. That’s their whole point.
A long time friend once told me that I should never have regrets. She felt they’re useless feelings that clog us up with nonsense. She says there are no regrets, only lessons we need to learn.
Another friend of mine would say to me, “Kim, let that one go! You don’t need that [insert decorative language here]!” In her fun way, she was trying to get me to unwrap and untangle myself so that I could be free to grow and keep experiencing new things. And make more mistakes.
Is that not what some of us do with our blogs? Our readers watch us grow, learn, change, experiment and make mistakes. We can’t be absolutely perfect every day.
So, if you’ve written something you regret in your blog, you can either torture yourself with a personal flogging, or just let it go. The reality is your mistakes remind us that behind your typed words there is a human being trying to figure out their Way.
I’m Sorry For
The thrill of getting the news out first or getting your thoughts out now seems to be more important than the consequences of your words visible on the screen for all to see and search engines and other services to cache and save forever.
So have you ever published something and then regretted it and had to apologize for your actions?
Here is my list, just to cover my butt.
1. I’m sorry for not staying on topic. This is because I’ve long since forgotten what it is.
2. I deeply regret not writing something that the kind folks at Webpronews can use every day. I never know what the heck you people want, which is nice because when you run something from here, it comes as a sweet surprise.
3. I’m sorry for writing about my family. Some of you LOVE my “baseball pants in the freezer” stories and others of you…well. You haven’t learned to go with the flow here. By the way, my boy hit a home run yesterday and I got a call late last night that he made the All Star Team for the league he’s in now. He’s got a double header on Saturday. I will come home looking like a giddy mom lobster unless I remember to wear sunscreen. Which I won’t.
Sorry. Strayed off topic there didn’t I.
4. I’m so sorry I’m not naughty and “bad girl” enough. Since my days as an erotica writer are over (as if) and I have clients that expect me to be professional and gorgeously smart, I’ve needed to run a class act here. This means there are some styles of writing that don’t quite fit the “Blogger Guidelines So That Kim Behaves” document in my head. Now. For the record. The fact that I don’t talk trash in this or other blogs doesn’t mean I’m not a carefree dare devil woman with a talent for potty mouth quips. Some things are simply meant for the privacy of my own car.
5. I’m sorry for the occasional expertly written article or blog post. I’d write more of them but sometimes during the day I do that funny little thing called “work”.
6. I regret going on vacation and leaving you all here twiddling your thumbs because I know darned well that if I’m not here, you get out of your daily “Visit Kim’s Blog” routine and when I get back, I’m forced to retrain you all again to come back every day. When DID you all become little lab mice anyway?
The hardest thing about owning a blog is being perfect. I come here because I want to talk. I like you. I think it’s so cool you stopped by.
7. I’m sorry I can’t hug you in person.